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【讀經隨想】你我可曾心生妒忌?

 

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「婦女們跳舞、歌唱,說:『 掃羅殺死千千!大衛殺死萬萬!』掃羅非常惱怒,不喜歡這話,就說:『他們給大衛萬萬,只給我千千,就只剩下王位沒給他。 』從那天起,掃羅就妒忌大衛。」(撒母耳記上十入:7-9)

去年 2018 年底,台灣的九合一選舉,在兩黨都一片低迷的狀態下,韓國瑜(現為高雄市長)沖破限制、混沌,逆勢大反轉。「韓流」席捲全台,他的勝選代表新民意的銳不可當,民心轉向務實。對現任的民進黨總統而言,自是懼他有傾倒當權民進黨之勢;而對國民黨,他則有挽救國民黨阿斗形象之姿。其實早在他青年從政擔任立委、壯年從商擔任北農總經理時,都突顯了他敢說、敢想、敢為的硬漢形象,但同樣都遭兩黨先後打壓。為什麼有能力的人卻不被重用?是不是忌賢妒才,深恐有能者功高蓋主?還是心中驕傲,對他人的成就反感?故而打壓有為者,政壇如是,職場上、社群中亦常是如此;即便是教會群体服事的同工中亦不乏類似情境的出現。人性中善妒的本質,從不缺乏案例。

在與哥利亞的決鬥中,大衛證明了他是勇冠三軍、本領超強的領袖之才。「掃羅無論差派大衛到哪裡去,他都去並且凡事亨通。於是掃羅立他作軍兵的將領,所有的人民和掃羅的臣僕都非常高興。」(撒上十八:5)他的成功,突然間,讓全國的百姓都對這位年輕的戰士愛戴有加,因為大衛擊敗哥利亞讓整個以色列國族信心大增﹐又充滿憧憬。城中婦女都興高采烈地迎接凱旋歸來的軍隊,歌唱表揚掃羅和剛剛冒起的勇士大衛:「掃羅殺死千千,大衛殺死萬萬。」就在那一瞬間,婦女所唱的簡單歌謠,激動了掃羅內裡不滿、不安的情緒,恐懼自己會被推翻。

韓市長當選後的處境和年輕時戰勝哥利亞的大衛,頗有類同之處。他在台灣政壇掀起的韓流之風,讓他的老東家恐怕是又愛又恨;如同大衛的驍勇善戰,並未讓掃羅因他戰勝以色列的敵人而全然欣喜。掃羅心中反而因妒忌而充滿憤怒、恐懼,並起了殺機(撒上十:11),一心只想除去一個為上帝子民爭戰的勇士。隨著恐懼徹底轄制了掃羅,他就命令他的臣僕甚至自己的兒子去殺大衛。很多人都看妒忌和比較心是無傷大雅,但事實是不受控制的妒忌,如同即將傾倒的沸騰湯鍋,可以帶來極大的摧毀。這妒忌、苦毒、憤怒不但使上帝蒙羞,還毀滅人際關係,又破壞人的生命。

威氏新舊約字辭註解辭典將翻譯為「嫉妒」的希臘文定義為:「因為目睹其他人的成功而產生的不快感覺。」韋氏字典對「嫉妒」的定義為:「覺得妒意,不安,或不快」。所以當你害怕你所擁有的會拱手讓給他人,或由於羨慕而對他人的成功感到氣憤時,你的心中已然充滿嫉妒。這嫉妒促使了約瑟的哥哥們將他賣為奴隸,他們恨他,因為父親非常愛他。這嫉妒也是掃罹追殺大衛之根由。所以箴言忠告:「心裡平靜,可使身體健康;但嫉妒能使骨頭朽爛。」(箴十四:30)

然而人們很難承認並面對自己內裡的不堪、妒忌、詭詐、貪婪......等不良的動機。通常的應對,不是選擇挑剔對手的錯,就是覓得一個冠冕堂皇的帽子扣在對方的頂上。如同掃羅一般,不斷打擊他認定的對手,以致失去一切良善和節制,就為保全自己屬世的權威、顏面和利益。聖經中教導我們 「不要貪圖虛名,彼此惹氣,互相嫉妒。」 (加五:26)信徒的提升是來自神,而非來自人,你我不需要拿自己或我做的事去和任何人比較,來爭取在上的地位。如果我們用神的方式行事,神會讓我們得到衪和其他人的喜愛。

嫉妒以及與他人比較是完全屬乎肉體,和屬靈的事一點關係都沒有。它真實破壞我們的生命,它不能讓我們蒙受祝福。我們怎麼叫這罪不在我們的生命中生根呢?唯有把我們的妒忌帶到神的面前,向神悔改!不要害怕向神坦誠你的感覺。無論如何,祂都知道你的感覺,因此你可以放心地和祂討論這件事。當你一發現妒忌開始進入你的心中時,可以先和你自己談一談。問問自己:是否相信神是偉大的計劃者?若「是」!衪就對每個人都有特別的計劃。我相信衪會為我安排最好的,因為衪比我更明白我的能力極限。衪為別人安排的計劃與我沒有任何關係。然後自由地為對方代禱,求神祝福他們。也求神幫助我更加欣賞別人的才幹,同時讓我看見怎樣善用自己的才幹。當我們遵行神的旨意:「相信神,討衪的喜悅」,我們就會像約瑟一樣,受到極大的祝福。

親愛的阿爸天父:

我們贊美祢,祢是傑出的籌劃者,我們要稱謝祢的名。祢從起初指明末後的事,從古時言明未成的事,祢說:我的籌算必立定;凡我所喜悅的,我必成就。主啊!幫助我學會單單信靠祢,定意跟隨祢!當別人比我更好時,求主鑑察我的心,若有不合祢意之處,叫我能立時悔改,離開罪惡,回轉歸向祢。並幫助我為了神給他人的成就或恩賜來感謝神!我這樣禱告祈求是奉耶穌基督的聖名,阿們!

 

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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