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【日本樂散步】電車上的安心

 

Chion

 

Why Japanese People!?是美籍日本搞笑藝人在表演時,氣憤地以亮聲說出的口頭禪,他用開玩笑的方法帶出外國人不明解的日本大小事。一直有兩個 Why 關於地鐵或火車(日本稱為電車)的日常生態,最近終於得解明瞭,原因是「安心」!

Train 1電車裡人們的熟睡相,成了外國遊客驚訝的「和風」異風景之一。日本的電車上經常可見頭歪、熟睡的男女老幼,更有進入深眠狀態,手機離手滑跌地上。白領人士通夜在露天休憩區睡覺;午餐後,在公園的長椅或草地上合眼休息的上班人也隨處可見,包包隨手放。大疑惑產生,別國的人們在陌生人面前那敢把眼合上,財物都緊緊抱著。日本的治安太好?安全到人人夠膽量在公眾地方睡覺,不怕謀財害命?還是全世界最長工作時間的日本人太辛苦,長期睡眠不足,站著坐著都可以進入夢中?

原來與傳統睡眠習慣有關係,古今的日本人多睡在舖疊疊米的和室,一家大小以川字式,小孩子們都從小給父母左右夾在中間,一人一張布團床或共用一張,排排睡的狀態休息。和風旅館也是一間和室多張布團床,客人們都以川字型的排著睡。一出生就習慣與人貼著一起睡,安心的心理習慣讓他們在人多的地方也很容易入睡。學者有說,這也是長大後不夠獨立自主的因由。不像北美人,由零歲起已經獨個兒睡覺,不太適應與人同室同床。加上治安問題,更不能在人多勢眾的環境上安心休息,財物也貼身地抓緊。

睡著時防守能力最低,在安全的環境下,或有信任的人留守才能放鬆入睡。你躺下,必不懼怕;你躺臥,睡得香甜(箴言3:24),這是天父賜予人的祝福,擁有平安的心,不掛慮、憂愁的腦袋,才會睡得甜熟。當心很亂、很無助時,我就以禱告把心事交給天父,才蓋上被子,信任祂的大能及守護去睡一安心覺,睡得好有精神,才能積極面對困難。

隨處可以合眼休息的習慣,身體語言反映了對人的信賴,如小朋友因信任身邊人,不害怕沒擔心,能隨時、隨處睡。在電車睡了的人相信身邊的人不會傷害他們,醒著的乘客也無意識地幫忙守著別人的財物,真是有點不可思議的互動。君不見,電車站多的是呼籲注意「癡漢」(色情狂)的海報,還真是少看到謹防小偷的標語。包包或手提電話在電車上遺留了,95% 都會找得回,還一錢不少。在這貪婪的世代中真是怪異的安心文化,不是一少部分人的行為,而是整個社會文化。海外旅行團出發前,都會收到守護財物指南,教導國民在海外要提高警覺,注意四周;用餐時,包包不能離手,因為人人習慣把東西隨便放置身後或椅上,拉鍊也不拉上;遇上會講日文的陌生人或日本人也要小心警戒等。長住在安全環境中,人性防禦系統的功能也減弱了,危機意識也低下。

另外有個有趣的發現,在電車總站上車,為數不多的乘客們一入無人的車廂,全部都自選坐在近門口隔離壁旁的邊端座位,中間的座位全部空空。當邊端座位一有空位,人們就自動移座佔領。餐廳或食店,食客的首選也是靠牆邊或角位。為什麼選擇此位置?兩旁沒有人的中間座,不是更舒適?

原因又是有邊靠、有界線給予日本人安心感,境界線阻隔了別人,把所在地方畫入自己的領域。邊端座位有一塊玻璃或板隔絕別人,是全車或全廳最令人安心的座位。乘客也很自覺尊重別人的境界線,如電車的地面兩色分三個區域,坐著的乘客會自律地把腳平放在座位下,離椅子約一腳距離的線內,以免自己的腳影響到站在另一顏色中的乘客,傷殘人士或優先座的地面也用不同顏色區分。

大門一開,日本的家總有一少片的地方畫出稱為玄關,用作放鞋及出迎客人。玄關的地面用料及高度差段一定與屋內不同,明顯上下分開兩個空間,讓居者有了私密的安全感。把客人留在大門外等候有點失禮,所以先把客人迎入玄關停留,在這脫鞋、整理衣服及拿出禮物等,主人家也有時間以最好的狀態迎客,雙方都準備好,才越過玄關境界線由迎客者引進主室。

日本的屋子總愛用植物或欄杆把主屋遮掩,明顯地把自家與別人的地方分隔,不像北美的開放式前園草地,大門窗戶一覽無遺。還有,最近新開的汽車旅館,客房門與汽車間規定要加一排欄杆,一線相隔才能批准合法營業。一條有形、無形的線竟帶來安心......保持適度距離,尊重別人的私隱空間在日本是基本禮儀。

文化習慣引至待人處事的差異,沒有對錯,要用心去理解。存心謙卑,看別人比自己強,學習接受雙方的不同,尊重並守護各人的需要,讓大家都能安心生活在同一空間中。

 

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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