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基督徒不祭祖,是否違背孝道?

有的人,因基督徒不跪拜逝世的父母和親人,也不上香燒紙錢或祭祖,就誤以為基督教提倡不孝。其實,真正的孝敬是在父母活著時盡心愛護、孝順他們,而非在父母逝世後才大事鋪張拜祭。聖經教導我們,人逝世後,他的肉體因「出於塵土,也都歸於塵土」(傳三﹕20)而「靈仍歸於賜靈的神。」(傳十二﹕7)故此祭拜死人或其牌位,乃是祭拜躲在牌位後的邪靈污鬼,是極度惹神震怒的事。故此,宇宙惟一的真神耶和華一早就藉著十誡,嚴厲地說﹕「除了我以外,不可有別的神......不可跪拜那些像,也不可事奉他。」(出二十﹕3-5)。

兒女孝敬父母,是蒙神喜悅和賜福的,因為:

1.孝敬父母是永生神的心意

試看,在神頒發給以色列人的十誡,前四誡談及人對神應有的關係,第五條開始談及人倫,神就宣告﹕「當孝敬父母,使你的日子在耶和華你神所賜你的地上,得以長久。」(出二十﹕12),是為人倫的第一條,可見孝敬父母的重要。此外,舊約記載了很多要孝敬父母的訓詞,和對不孝敬之人的警戒。

而新約聖經也說﹕「你們作兒女的,要在主裏聽從父母,這是理所當然的。要孝敬父母,使你得福,在世長壽,這是第一條帶應許的誡命。」(弗六﹕1-3)把神的心意表露無遺。而神更應許把福氣、長壽賜給那些聽從祂命令、孝敬父母的人。

2. 神子耶稣基督立下的好榜樣

主耶穌自己給我們留下行孝的最好榜樣。即使當主耶穌為擔當世人罪孽,被釘十字架受死,處於極其痛苦之時,祂仍然關心母親馬利亞。主在十架上講了七句話,其中有兩句是關乎母親的﹕「母親,看你的兒子。」又對那門徒說﹕「看你的母親。」(約十九﹕26-27)讓母親老有所靠。由此可見,基督教是個要我們尊神為首,並孝敬父母,及愛人如己的信仰。

我們對生養自己的父母尚且要孝敬、聽從,對那位大能、慈愛、全知全能、永在、創造宇宙萬物及人類、為我們供應一切生存必需要的空氣、五轂、水分、陽光......,甚至為拯救我們免於永遠沉淪而捨獨生愛子耶穌的天父,我們豈不是更當聽從和敬畏嗎?

如何行孝

1.把人生最珍貴的給父母

人生在世,沒有甚麼比接受耶穌基督為救主,罪孽得著神赦免更重要了,故此,親愛的讀者,你務要接受耶穌基督的救恩;已信主的兒女,務要把你的父母帶到神面前,這是極度蒙福、重要的事,聖經如此說﹕「人有了神的兒子(耶穌基督)就有生命(永生),沒有神的兒子,就沒有生命。」(約壹五﹕12)。信主的人,不但有永生的確據,更有聖靈永遠同在,作人生隨時的幫助。故此,我們可以不懼死亡,靠主坦然面對一切苦難、疾病,甚至死亡。我們也要鼓勵父母加入教會,認識真理,愛主,因為有主耶穌作他們的依靠,他們晚年也能活得有意義、有喜樂、有盼望。你的父母在永世中都記得你這樣的孝敬。

2.要奉養父母,務使父母得溫飽

曾子說:「孝有三: 大孝尊親, 其次弗辱, 其下能養。」兒女最起碼要奉養父母,使父母有溫飽,不至在饑寒中度晚年;作兒女的也要奉公守法,別讓父母因我們蒙羞;曾子並指出最高層次的孝是要尊敬父母,因為「犬馬皆得養,不敬,何以別乎?」

基督教的孝道比曾子說的更進一步,報答親恩「要在主裏聽從父母,這是理所當然的」,「在主裏聽從」指出這不是盲目愚孝,若父母要我們所作的不符合聖經真理時,我們要勸告他們,免得陷父母於不義。

3. 體貼父母,注重溝通

與父母保持暢通良好的溝通。經常噓寒問暖、關心父母所需,即使與父母天涯相隔,也可用視頻、微信、電話經常與父母聯絡,也請常常回家看看他們,讓父母知道你真的在乎他們。與父母談話時,態度要恭敬,把愛流露。也請記得父母已老邁,要多多包容忍讓,即使老人嘮叨不停,也請別面露不悅,也不要對他們的頑固或錯誤過分責備。

4. 多誇讚父母,讓父母分享你的成就

兒女也要常對父母親講說感恩、造就的話,並在配偶,兒女,親友面前稱讚他們,讓父母老懷安慰。

5. 幫助父母,擴張社交範圍

鼓勵父母擴充社交圈子,如參加教會老人團契,社區老人活動等,務要讓他們生活多姿多彩,多活動,多交朋友,能跨越老人常見的憂鬱困境。

6. 注意老父母健康

兒女要留心父母飲食、健康與心理狀況﹕如父母有糖尿病、血壓高等慢性病,作兒女要確定父母按時吃藥,定期檢查身體。

年邁父母健康出現毛病時,通常不願麻煩兒女,自己胡亂找點成藥吃,延遲就醫,結果小病變成大病。故此,兒女要留意健康的紅燈﹕如左膀臂疼痛,腸胃常不適、頭昏、胸口作悶、小便量減少,大便漆黑、易疲倦,體重劇減、不思茶飯等等都必須立刻就醫。

也請注意父母是否已老邁而不能自顧﹕如冰箱食物發臭霉爛依然取吃;不再注重衣著是否清潔整齊;漠視個人清潔,不再喜歡洗澡;屋子灰塵滿佈;健忘,常憂鬱;人生灰暗無望......。曾認識有位獨居老姊妹在家受傷,無法求救而死亡。作兒女的如不能照料老邁父(母),務要找人代為照顧他們,或讓父母住進聲譽良好的老人院。自己無論如何忙碌也要常常看望關懷,也教導自己的兒女來看望,請別讓父母淒涼孤單度晚年。免得有一天,你會有不能彌補「子欲養而親不在」的遺憾。

 

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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