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【社會心】非理性思想(69)--喜樂不分富或貧

 

上期說到「復和是條雙程路」,充滿正能量的人願意先行出一步,釋出善意,為的是讓彼此關係更和諧,更加造就雙方成長,不要讓過去的傷痕成為阻礙關係發展的絆腳石。充滿正能量的人,在自己的人際關係當中會有積極的流露,也會顯現於生活上的實踐,例如在工餘時間當義工,運用自己的知識、時間或金錢,回饋社會上較為弱勢的一群。

Social筆者有機會參加在溫哥華一福音機構主辦的「危疾關顧訓練課程」,之後參與實習探訪,觀察到有不同原因導致的傷殘病患者的處境,當中有不少的病是無法根治,終身需要接受治療。每個人都有不同故事,聽後多少總有一些傷感,問到何以會發生在其身上。當然,沒有答案,或是說沒有人能夠給予滿意的答案。苦難,有誰可以解釋它何以會出現在這人身上?然而,令筆者難明的,是這些處於人生逆境的承受者,他們卻仍然是每日安然度過,平淡中感到平安。

原來有人探訪和無人探訪的心情感覺差別很大。知道將會有人來探時早兩三天前已經有預備或是梳洗整理儀容換靚衫甚至事先張揚告訴家人院友或職員因為有人來探訪所帶來的喜悅的期待是沒法用金錢衡量的。事實上若那位院友經常有訪客他也會受到職員更多關注無形中也受到更多的關顧困難也有機會處理解決。最令筆者感動的是在探訪時雙方的傾談、問候、交流提供資訊或是分享個人經歷就是一個互動互相施受的過程(a mutually give and take process)不一定是探訪者給予對方甚麼好處很多時更是被訪者給予的鼓勵。探訪所帶來的喜樂不是用金錢多少來判斷喜樂不分富或貧。

人若是跳出自我中心放眼去看周圍的人會看到「比上不足比下有餘」若能把自己小小力量去扶助一個人已經是對那位的大鼓勵。正如聖經有說兩個人總比一個人好因為二人勞碌同得美好的果效。若是跌倒這人可以扶起他的同伴。我相信正義人的口是生命的泉源一句良言使心歡樂得到安慰。若能做到彼此相顧激發愛心勉勵行善眾人得益社會和諧。各人不要單顧自己的事也要顧別人的事。盡量去勉勵灰心的人扶助軟弱的人施與受皆得到好處。

一位前公關一哥退而不休為晚期病危者圓臨終願望。據 HKET(香港網報)於 2020 年 1 月 29 日的報導曾是香港迪士尼的公共事務掌舵人盧先生三年前已屆 64 歲的他決定在職場上全身而退因想趁有時間及精力幫助有需要的人他用 150 萬元的退休金在 2018 年成立了「基督為本基金」主要服務晚期病危人士完成在世最後心願。

Social-2原來這個決定是源自他在迪士尼工作的體驗:他見到有些病童來樂園探訪卡通人物他們來到時面帶病容、精神一般但當他們見到米奇老鼠、高飛狗等面上即流露燦爛笑容十分開心好像忘記病痛當他們離開時面色紅潤精神抖擻。他覺得好神奇所以決定為病者做一點事。基金成立至今已為 40 多位晚期病危人士圓夢。其實人在臨終時金錢已變得不重要反而他們只想跟喜歡的人相聚願望就是這麼簡單。能夠為臨終病患者提供一個心願得償的機會不單使病者開心更令其家人親友有個難忘的美好時刻彼此同得安慰。盧先生的「基金」行動激發起漣漪效應帶來臨終者更多喜樂回憶也是正能量的擴散。

Social-1筆者在數年前有機會參與一個「生命禮讚派對」(life celebration party)是為一位患上罕見絕症的少年在臨終前舉辦一個派對。那位醫務社工聯繫各界親友及社會人士到場見證慶祝特別邀請數位消防隊員喬裝星球大戰角色場地也滿佈星球大戰道具裝飾讓那位星球大戰粉絲少年圓其心中夢想和星球勇士合照開派對。那日我的既為他開心喜悅感覺到很多人對他的關懷愛心但同時又眼淚盈眶。內心的喜樂與哀傷並存的感覺至今難忘。我感覺到那少年當時是喜樂蓋過病痛。那個生命派對不單令那少年喜樂他的父母家人被支持關顧更令每位與會者皆感受到人間有愛充滿正能量。

正能量不是神秘或神奇力量而是每人都有的就是把人的善良本性發揮出來猶如燃燒著的燭光照亮身邊人增添喜樂減少怨恨。我們每個人每日都可以由美麗笑容開始熱誠的眼神自然的打招呼合宜的支援以至參與義工行列捐贈物資給更有需要的人成立基金作更長久有計劃的支援等等都是正能量的表現。期盼各位讀者都繼續在不同崗位上發揮正能量光照我們的城市暖化每個人的內心。

香港歌手許冠傑有一首歌曲「快樂」最能表達此種正能量情特別與大家分享:

快樂是陽光普照的清晨快樂是流水美妙的音韻

快樂其實分分鐘把您等只要您識得點去搵

快樂是尋找天際的星辰快樂是回憶沙灘的足印

快樂其實邊一位都有份不管您是富或貧

朋友愛父母恩,每刻溫暖在我心

豁達滿足仁愛施恩快樂便常共您相親

快樂是離開都市的煙塵快樂是回家往浴缸一浸

快樂是一首好歌嘴裡哼一張晚報一杯香檳

快樂是賢妻給我的精神快樂是兒子親暱的一吻

快樂長伴我這一生皆因我是快樂人

 

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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